Crippled or Crutch

At what point do you start holding a person responsible for their "own" actions?

In this day and age we are so quick to claim, "I'm like this because of my past" (myself included)

Allowing people to make EXCUSE for the negative decisions and behaviors they have..

Almost giving them a unspoken "get out of jail free card" to do almost any and everything..

At what point is your past CRIPPLING you or CRUTCHING you?

I'm going to say something not many people are courageous enough to say..

There is a point in each and everyone of our lives…

Where we are going to go thru something that may be just one or a combination of an emotional , physical or spiritual challenge. 

Wether it be neglect, physical or mental abuse, letdown, rejection, or just growing up with the stressors of dealing with a single parent home. 

I recognize the fact that a lot of these things happen to us at the most impressionable and youthful times in our life…

But now as ADULTS at what point do you DECIDE to not let your past CONTROL your present and future? 

To not allow your PAST to influence into your life NEGATIVE behavior and destructive tendencies...

I am a firm believer that:

Once your old enough to understand RIGHT from WRONG, and old enough to PATTERN your OWN actions.

THEN you are old enough to not allow your past to effect the present and future. 

If you are conscious enough to recognize that you have an ISSSUE with your past, then you are conscious enough to go seek help.

To go make right what is broken within you (if at all possible)... 

There comes a point where you are deciding to hold on to what hurts you, rather then face it and move on. 

It becomes an excuse, not a reason. 

"He/She had a troubled past"

Has become such a common phrase amongst Lawyers and News Caster when speaking on some of the heinous crimes that occur throughout our communities.

But beyond crimes….

We as a people use this to explain the reasons behind ALMOST EVERYTHING!!!

I don't talk BECAUSE OF MY PAST

I'm afraid of relationships BECAUSE OF MY PAST

I hit women BECAUSE OF MY PAST

BECAUSE OF MY PAST… BECAUSE OF MY PAST.. BECAUSE OF MY PAST… 

We all have something that we currently do that is negative BECAUSE OF OUR PAST.

Stop making excuses for yourselves!

Face your problems head on…

And we as a people need to not allow individuals to not take PERSONAL responsibility for themselves!

If you recognize that your past hurt you, seek help!

So that you, them nor I don't have to be…

 "CRIPPLED or CRUTCHED"